One walk can sometimes save a marriage🙈
I’m aware that I talk about how important is expressing emotions. And I still stand by it 🙌
Just keep in mind that:
1. Emotions are temporary states in which we are subject to very HIGH ACTIVATION
2. In big emotions our THOUGHTS, CHOICE OF WORDS and BEHAVIOR is impacted. Therefore we might regret later that we did/said that thing.
3. Living in a society means that not only we feel our own emotions but also EVERYBODY ELSE around has their own emotions and we have to manage somehow so that we don’t harm each other.
So what to do then? 🤔
1. SEPARATE EMOTION FROM DECISION. Emotions are not to be ashamed of them, emotions are there to be felt. Let yourself feel, decide AFTER the emotion has passed (or at least calmed down a little)
2. CONNECT YOUR HEART WITH THE BRAIN AND THE BODY. Start becoming aware of these 3 things: thoughts, emotions and body sensations. Include all 3 in making decisions.
3. Approach the conversation with other person when you feel comfort and safety. You have a better chance in agreeing on a resolution.
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